Aspects of Love

Where do you open when you love someone deeply--what part of you opens? How do you help them to open?

If you were face to face with your lover right now, you could try speaking straight from your heart, without memorization or reading. How freely would your love flow from your heart into words? That depends, in part, on how
open your body is. To offer your true openness as love, now and in every moment you can practice to open your body.

Breathe and relax open. An open body is not limp, but is like a cat, responsive, alive, and expressive.

To allow a deeper openness to prevail, feel into your lover’s depths as if using feeling-sonar to touch far into your lover’s heart. Breathe with your lover, relax open with your lover, open to heart-depth with your lover, and allow your words to flow.

Feel your lover’s heart opening and closing as you speak, using your words like music to bring a smile to your lover’s heart, gently evoking an openness of deep trust. Your lover can feel your depth feeling their depth, and so relax open with you Allow your poetry to spring from open depth felt as one by both your hearts.

Your spontaneous heart-deep words often convey your true love with more grace and profundity than your rehearsed attempts to speak.

According to Buddhism, there are four elements of true love. Read what this wise teacher has to say, and find out if what you feel is true love, here:

Here are the four aspects of true love.

1. Loving-kindness. Loving-kindness is not only the desire to make someone appy, to bring joy to a beloved person, it is the ability to bring joy and happiness to the person you love, because even if your intention is to love this person, your love might make him or her suffer. To be able to give happiness and joy, you must practice deep looking toward the person you love. Because if you do not understand this person, you cannot love properly.

2. Compassion. This is not only the desire to ease the pain of another person, but the ability to do so. You must practice deep looking in order to gain a good understanding of the nature of the suffering of this person, in
order to be able to help him or her to change.

3. Joy If there is no joy in love, it is not true love. If you are suffering all the time, if you cry all the time, and if you make the person you love cry, this is not really love--it is even the opposite. If there is no joy in your love, you can be sure that it is not true love.

4. Freedom. In true love, you attain freedom. When you love, you bring freedom to the person you love. If the opposite is true, it is not true love. You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free, not only outside but also inside. “Dear one, do you have enough space in your heart and all around you?” This is an intelligent question for testing whether your love is something real.